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| Leaves, in New York City |
It
is only when we no longer compulsively need someone
that we can have a real
relationship with them.
- Anthony Storr
Two Relationship Lies
- I need this person to be complete, and
- If this person needs me, I’ll be complete.
“If
you try to find intimacy with another person before achieving a sense of
identity on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete
yourself. This single sentence holds the key to finding genuine fulfillment for
every relationship. If you do not grasp its message, the best you can hope for
is a false and fleeting sense of emotional closeness, the kind that comes from
a series of temporary attachments. Once the truth of this sentence is
understood and internalized, however, you’ll discover the abiding comfort of
belonging— to family, friends, the love of your life, and ultimately, God. A
solid sense of who you are provides the foundation you need to forge
friendships that last and to find your soul mate.”
- Parrott,
Les and Leslie. Real Relationships: From Bad to Better and Good toGreat, Kindle Locations 155-163
